Yeah, I usually agree with the author and she's right that the relationship needs more discussion/sex. But the man specifically said,"I waited to see if you noticed" which really struck a chord. It means he's already tried whatever he could think of. I think all men have beeen there. Sometimes the ignoring gambit works, but it's a risky move leading to even worse disappointment when it fails. This has been going on a long time in his head, and the wife needs to know it isn't an isolated or "childish" incident. He's on the last of his patience and another woman is his next move.